Friendship vs Commitment

I always wonder which is a better relation of the two that can exist between a girl and a boy. First one is the most transparent relation, that is, friendship and second one is commitment, where, both persons pretend to be in love with each other. Means both of them are not sure whether it is love or not but feel attracted to each other and they decide to end up in commitment. Both of them live their love fantasies in such a type of relation. After that a virtual possession comes in between them. Yes, it is true that in such a kind of relationship their love fantasies are satisfied but do they realize that the relationship between the two of them does not remain as transparent as it was before! Every time both of them have to pretend that they love each other.
I remember a small incident that happened to one of my friends. He decided to get committed to a girl over the internet, after some time of friendship with her and they started satisfying their love fantasies .One day the girl’s parents caught her talking to my friend late night . This brought an end to their so called “commitment”. The feeling of love among the two was lost. They faced a break up .To my shock , soon I saw my friend getting committed to another girl which perhaps was a similar case.
I still wonder what have they gained and what they have lost. The gain was the fulfillment of their love fantasies for a specific period of time but at the same time they have lost a person in their life who could have had proved to be a very good friend. During friendship we always present ourselves as what we are but in case of commitment we always try to be pretend in order to impress the other person .So I always question the fact that, is satisfying of our love fantasies so important that we can suffer a loss of a good friend over that? Is it advisable to be some one else for a commitment which we are not even sure of? Do give a thought

~ by nittu on June 1, 2008.