love vs possession

We do love someone and want that he or she should be with us every time. We have  got the feeling of jealousy if we find our love is talking to other person . We might see the wife arguing a  husband if he comes late .Husband asking a lot of questions if he finds wife out of home. So what we are doing in all these cases we are  showing our possession on the other person .We are making feel that other person is our soul property and he should behave as we want. Yes of course there is love that’s why we are showing so right on other person. But behaving like this , expecting other person to behave every time according to you will really prove that how much we love the other person.Will it ensure that the other person will understand your love like this and stay with u forever.Let me tell u a short story .There is an uncle of mine whose wife really loves him the most .She loves him in such a way that the love is converted in possessiveness.She always  feel jealous if he talks to the other girls. She always restrict him to talk to other girls.Tries that he should be with him every time. Then this possessiveness is increased to such extent that she also felt jealousness of the closeness of him to his mother and father too. She thinks that by doing this her husband will always be with her .But she was wrong .With the course of time he start to feel like that he is living in a jail. The more his wife tries to attract him towards her more he is going away from her .By the course of time the face of her wife become more irritating to him. Her wife cries that what wrong has she has done.She think that she has taken so much  care of him and still he does not want me in his life .So really what wrong has he done .We shouldn’t posses someone so much that the person will feel suffocation in it.I really remember a line of movie Ishq Vishq which was love is like a word.If he wants to go let him .If he returns than only it was your love otherwise it was never yours.Yes we do hurt if we find that our love is giving importance to others more than us. But if it is so than  by putting our love in a pigeon will not make it ours.Might be it will be physically close to u but mentally it will go far far away.Love is like we are caring for other person without expecting anything from him .

~ by nittu on May 31, 2008.